Couples
Intimacy is at the heart of life; you need to feel close to your deepest self and to others to find fulfillment and vitality.
The beauty of couples’ therapy is that both partners are in the same room, and are entering into the same therapeutic space—this opens up a multitude of possibilities. When working with couples I integrate Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an attachment-based therapy, with my psychodynamic approach. This enables me to help couples address the many layers of experience, emotion, and attachment at play in a relationship and its struggles. Beginning by developing a shared understanding of the difficulty in the relationship and its origins, I then help both partners find ways to shift the dynamic, build stronger communication, and create greater intimacy.
Foundation Building and Pre-Marital Therapy
Pre-Marital Therapy – Couples Counseling – Couples Therapy – Strengthening Attachment – Heterosexual Couples – Queer Couples – Lesbian Couples – Gay Couples – Polyamorous Couples
If you’ve been dating for a few months or a few years, contemplating moving in together, or wanting to strengthen your partnership before embarking on marriage, addressing the structure of your relationship with an eye to reinforce and enhance can powerfully impact the course of what’s to come.
Intimacy
Closeness – Connection – Sexual Intimacy – Emotional Intimacy
Intimacy is comprised of many different elements: how we connect and express emotions, how we touch one another sexually and sensually, how we relate intellectually, and socially. Finding and sustaining intimacy can be challenging at any stage of a relationship. I partner with couples to understand what fuels intimacy for each member, determine what has been impeding the growing of your connection, and then work on building a foundation of intimacy in your relationship.
Communication and Conflict
Connective Communication – Working through Conflict – Resolving Attachment Injuries
Finding yourself and your partner in arguments that begin about different things but end up in the same stuck places can feel discouraging and frustrating. When you try to resolve the disagreement, instead of finding a mutual place of understanding, you get further and further apart. In therapy, we can understand the dynamics that drive this cycle, and find new ways to communicate and relate to your partner to open up conversation and connection instead of constant conflict.